Words of Widsom:

On Connection
with Self:

“Loneliness does not come from having no people about one,
but from being unable
to communicate
the things that seem important to oneself.”

~Carl Jung

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“To understand that
you create your relationships
out of your
unconscious feelings,
needs, and patterns
is to take a giant step
forward in growth."

~Gay Hendricks, PhD
&
Kathlyn Hendricks, PhD

Articles & Tips

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Recent Reasearch on Psychotherapy

On Couples Therapy


ON THE EVOLUTION OF INTIMACY:
“At the heart of the new intimacy is the capacity to consciously open yourself and take in more and more of who your partner truly is ... Simply put, loving someone who is like you is love, but it’s elementary and will remain relatively superficial. Loving someone who is different is a love that requires commitment and consciousness and care.”
~Judith Sherven, PhD & James Sneichowski, PhD

ON FORGIVENESS:
“Forgiveness, a profound state of letting go, is experienced as the freedom of deep relaxation and comfort in the body.”
~Joan Borysenko, PhD

ON ADVERSITY:
“Adversity is our dear friend. It is the driving force that pushes us out of our comfortable nest and forces us to learn to fly on our own. We can really welcome adversity as a gift. Without it our growth is very slow. With it, we are transformed from fledglings into masters. Every great person has a history of adversity. No one has ever made a contribution to humanity without first undergoing a certain amount of trials.”
~Alan Cohen

 



TIPS ON RELATIONSHIPS:

TIP #1
“Never do anything in relationship out of a sense of obligation.”
~Neale Donald Walsh

TIP #2
“Never try to teach a pig how to sing. It wastes your time and annoys the pig.”
~Source Unknown

TIP #3
“Acknowledging your own needs first will allow you to help others ... This is sanity, not selfishness.”
~Joan Borysenko, PhD

TIP #4
“If you wish the world to become loving and compassionate, become loving and compassionate yourself. If you wish to diminish fear in the world, diminish your own. These are the gifts that you can give.”
~Gary Zukav

 

REFLECTIONS ON RELATIONSHIPS:

“Part of trusting is feeling safe.
Unless I feel safe with you ... I cannot trust you
by sharing my True Self with you.
If it is scary to let the real me be out with anyone, then
how can even I get to know it?
Healthy boundaries are important ...
Because they let my True Self come out,
in part by protecting its integrity and well-being.”
~Charles Whitfield, MD


“Nothing triggers my defenses more than when
someone criticizes me in the same way I am secretly
criticizing myself, or when I know I am wrong
but don’t want to admit it.”
~John Bradshaw

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“The trouble with many married people is that they are trying
to get more out of marriage than there is in it.”
~Elbert Hubbard

“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.”
~Anais Nin

“We create our destiny with choices – often tiny choices –
in tiny moments of time.”
~Gay Hendricks, PhD

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“Getting in touch with and working through [your] anger
is an absolutely essential step in the healing process.”
~Sidney B. Simon, MD & Suzanne Simon

“The regrets and resentments that ‘if only’s’ represent are a
major source of unhappiness that can keep us stuck for a lifetime.”
~Joan Borysenko, PhD
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“Anxiety accompanies the disequilibrium of change, those times when we allow new and unknown possibilities to disturb our old mind-sets. Peace of mind comes when we heed anxiety’s call and act to successfully integrate new growth into our wholeness.”
~Robert Gerzon

“Forgiveness is freeing up and putting to better use the energy once consumed by holding grudges, harboring resentments,
and nursing unhealed wounds.”
~Sidney B. Simon, MD & Suzanne Simon

 

REFRAMING AS A CREATIVE
HEALING PRACTICE:


“Everything that happens is either a blessing which is also a lesson, or a lesson which is also a blessing.”
~Polly Berrien Berends

“There are no random events. Look for the deeper meaning
to see how love is working in you, conspiring to support your growth, urging you to love better.”
~Carolyn Ranker

“Every thing that happens to you is your teacher. The secret is to learn to sit at the feet of your own life and be taught by it.”
~Polly Berrien Berends




 

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